"don’t go into a marriage in search of happiness. marriage isn’t the place to find happiness. marriage is struggles and hardship and difficulties, and that is why it is a great blessing and one the greatest trials, for it is through struggle that we become stronger, wiser, and closer to Allah.
so don’t go into marriage hoping to find happiness; go into marriage with the understanding that there will be fights, and temper, and the greatest test of your patience - all for the purpose of improving you as a muslim and that goal never has an easy path"